My Husband Has Become My Son's Reward for Good Behaviour ! F*#K

When your child uses your significant other as a escape goat, life becomes so much harder! 

Let me just start by saying that when you are married to a farmer it does present certain challenges. During Harvest you loose your back up, and become the mother and father figure for a month in some cases 2 months. After all that happens my family has to readjust to having my husband around again. I have already gone into great deal about this so my next problem is my 2 year old will soon to be a 3 year old! 

Photo curtesy of Google search! i don't have a picture of my son
screaming. usually a bit busy! 

Ever since my husband has been home from the field the 2 yr old has been using "Daddy" as his escape goat to get out of things after he has very clearly broken the rules. As soon i say "NO!" the next thing to come out of that little but loud mouth is " I WANT DADDY!" In no nice way does he say it and even after getting what he wants i realize that i have just been played, by a very smart and ass hole like toddler! So after many days of him getting out of bed or getting out of a punishment for something he very clearly did. I pulled on my big girl panties and set to work. Starting with having a conversation with my husband about how he is being used as a patsy to enable this child to get what he wants when he wants it. Only after this conversation did he realize that we were being played. So after days of getting 'I want DADDY!" I started to not back down. I stated something like "NO you are dealing with me right now!" at which point the screaming would get louder and my resolve would be tested. Thankfully I gave them the stubbornness they have so....I won! after 2 hours of screaming, I got to read the bedtime book and he went to bed only after earning a hug from dad and not before. Don't miss understand he is of course suppose to love is daddy, but you can't misbehave and then expect to get rewarded with a daddy hug that will only make him hit and cry more. 

I said this before but i will say it again. The terrible 2's are Real....but the Horrible 3's are just being AGAIN in this house. I can already see I am going to have my hands full, teaching this child of mine that the world does NOT revolve around him, and that when you say to mommy "NO not YOU!" It does hurt my feelings. Children at this age have no sense of why what they say can hurt. As parents it's our job to teach them these things. However I will say they do know when you are hurting, whether that be emotionally or physically. They have a sense when the ones they care about are hurting, and he did a good job when i was. I guess it's not all bad, most of it is lovely.....until it isn't lol 

HAPPY THORSDAY!~